ANDYS WEEKLY JOURNAL #4

December 4, 2008

ANDYS…The Listening Service.

#4 (07th DEC, 2008)

Andy’s The Listening Service is primarily a counselling service offering free at source help information and advice for everyone and anyone to use although it deals mainly with issues dealing with disability. It’s services are open to both able bodied and disabled persons, We look forward to hear from you.

Andy’s thoughts:

I guide you in the way of wisdom and lead along straight paths. Proverbs Chapter 4 vs 11
We know not what path may be, As yet by us untrod but we can trust our all to thee our father and our God- Wme J Irons
Following on from what I said last week. Leading a faith filled life can be very challenging. For one thing you don’t know what is around the corner, you cant know it is impossible for us to know what lies around the corner. God however knows everything and will guide you through life and show you which path to tread.
 
 A man must walk his path alone, Sometimes People come and go but it is the personal relationship that we build up with God our father over time that counts. It is a personal journey that unfolds like a map over time and becomes a personal relationship that grows like father & son. Warning, God can show us the paths like signposts along the way but we must choose which route to take. Mans free will means he will never intervene.
 
If you have read my story you will know of the trials and tribulations I have had to endeavour to overcome. When I was lying in a hospital bed not knowing if I was going to live or die. One thought entered my mind and put my mind at rest. I was walking on an empty beach no one was around there was but one set of footprints in the sand. It was a image dragged up from over 20 years earlier of a Christian poster that I had on my bedroom wall in the 80`s. Why did it put my mind to rest because the words that accompanied the poster were as follows During the times of trial & suffering when you only see one set of footprints it was then that I carried you. I realised that The Lord was protecting over me.
 
That was something precious. To share with others not to chuck down their throats, not to be preached down to or in bashing people over the head with, but a message of love given by God. And another pearl of wisdom collected over a lifetime of personal journeys If having others believe in you and your dream was a requirement for success, most of us would never accomplish anything.
 
You need to base your decisions about what you want to do based on your dreams and your goals – not the goals, desires, opinions and judgments of your parents, friends, spouse, children and colleagues. Stop worrying about what other people think, and follow your heart.
 
Remember Dr. Daniel Amen’s 18/40/60 rule : “When you’re 18, you worry about what everybody’s thinking about you; when you’re 40, you don’t care about what anybody thinks about you; and when you’re 60, you realise that nobody’s been think about you at all.”
 
So there you are !. Most of the time, nobody’s think about you at all ! They’re too busy thinking about their own lives. And if they are thinking about you, it’s only to wonder what you’re thinking about them. People think about themselves, not about you.

Think about it. All the time you waste worrying what other people are thinking about you, your ideas, your goals, your clothes, your hair – all that time could be far better spent thinking about and doing the things that will achieve your goals- anxiety. Conversely, taking steps to raise your self-belief can make you less anxious and have a significant and positive effect on the way you handle stressful situations.

You have to believe in yourself. Whether you call it self-esteem, self-confidence, or self-assurance, it’s a deep-seated belief that you have what it takes – the abilities, inner resources, talents and skills to handle whatever life throws at you, and create the results that you desire.Andy Phillips                       Read my story
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Thought of the week:
I think everybody should just turn off their TV machines and make up their own songs about whatever comes to mind-their couch, their friends their loaves of bread. Everybody’s got their own songs. There should be so many songs out there that it all turns into one big sound and we can put the whole thing into a pickup truck and let it roll off the edge of the Grand Canyon. –Beck Hansen Robert Louis Stevenson
Good News of the week:
Happy people spend a lot of time socializing, going to church and reading newspapers — but they don’t spend a lot of time watching television, a new study finds.
That’s what unhappy people do.
Although people who describe themselves as happy enjoy watching television, it turns out to be the single activity they engage in less often than unhappy people, said John Robinson, a professor of sociology at the University of Maryland and the author of the study, which appeared in the journal Social Indicators Research.
While most large studies on happiness have focused on the demographic characteristics of happy people — factors like age and marital status — Dr. Robinson and his colleagues tried to identify what activities happy people engage in. The study relied primarily on the responses of 45,000 Americans collected over 35 years by the University of Chicago’s General Social Survey, and on published “time diary” studies recording the daily activities of participants.
“We looked at 8 to 10 activities that happy people engage in, and for each one, the people who did the activities more — visiting others, going to church, all those things — were more happy,” Dr. Robinson said. “TV was the one activity that showed a negative relationship. Unhappy people did it more, and happy people did it less.”
But the researchers could not tell whether unhappy people watch more television or whether being glued to the set is what makes people unhappy. “I don’t know that turning off the TV will make you more happy,” Dr. Robinson Still, he said, the data show that people who spend the most time watching television are least happy in the long run.
Since the major predictor of how much time is spent watching television is whether someone works or not, Dr. Robinson added, it’s possible that rising unemployment will lead to more TV time. – New York times
Be The Change:
Centre for Screen-Time Awareness shares information about how we can take control of electronic media in our lives, not allowing it to control us. more ]
Monday:
In this cold commodity culture, Where you lay your money down, It’s hard to even notice, That all this earth is hallowed ground…The gift keeps moving, Never know where it’s going to land,You must stand back and let it, Keep on changing hands. –Bruce Cockburn
“You don’t have to participate in a local currency or service exchange to be part of the cooperative gift economy. Any time you do a favour for a family member, neighbour, colleague, or stranger you’re part of it. Here are some ways you can spend time in the gift economy, where you’ll find fun, freedom, and connection.” So begins this inspiring list of starting places from Yes! Magazine more ]
Join the gift-economy today!
Once one is caught up into the material world not one person in ten thousand finds the time to form literary taste, to examine the validity of philosophic concepts for himself, or to form what, for lack of a better phrase, I might call the wise and tragic sense of life. F. Scott Fitzgerald
Mondays live session.9 till 11 pm, GMT (Please feel free to join me on line today).
 Tuesday:
I have always held firmly to the thought that each one of us can do a little to bring some portion of misery to an end. –Albert Schweitzer
“My cousin Heidi was stricken around age 16 with a debilitating disease, which took her life about 20 years later. As the disease progressed, she became wheelchair bound and unable to easily communicate (I’m not sure of the disease — it may have been a combination, including Parkinson’s).When she was in her late 20’s, she would often have her mother take her out into the front yard when the weather was nice so that she could sit in her wheelchair and watch the cars pass by. One day, my aunt was doing dishes and looked out the window to see a car pulled to the side of the road.” What happened next was a brief and beautiful exchange that the author of this real-life story would never forget. [ more ]
Take time to share in some way — not only with friends and family — but with strangers too.
You really have Social Disease when you make all your play work. The only reason to play hard is to work hard, not the other way around like most people think. Andy Warhol
Tuesdays live session.10 till 12 am, GMT (Please feel free to join me on line today).
Wednesday:
I think everybody should just turn off their TV machines and make up their own songs about whatever comes to mind-their couch, their friends their loaves of bread. Everybody’s got their own songs. There should be so many songs out there that it all turns into one big sound and we can put the whole thing into a pickup truck and let it roll off the edge of the Grand Canyon. –Beck Hansen
Happy people spend a lot of time socializing, going to church and reading newspapers — but they don’t spend a lot of time watching television, a new study finds. That’s what unhappy people do. Although people who describe themselves as happy enjoy watching television, it turns out to be the single activity they engage in less often than unhappy people, said John Robinson, a professor of sociology at the University of Maryland. more ] Submitted by: Trishna Shah
Centre for Screen-Time Awareness shares information about how we can take control of electronic media in our lives, not allowing it to control us. [ more ]
Anyone who stops learning is old, whether at twenty or eighty. Anyone who keeps learning stays young. The greatest thing in life is to keep your mind young.” Henry Ford
Wednesdays live session.10 till 12 am, GMT (Please feel free to join me on line today).
Thursday:
Nature, where life is reproduced and exists, has the right to exist, persist, maintain, and regenerate its vital cycles, structure, functions, and its processes in evolution. Every person, people, community, or nationality will be able to demand the recognition of rights for nature before the public bodies. –Quote From Constitution of Ecuador
There was a time when people were considered property and this idea is quickly being antiquated. But now, Ecuador has taken a revolutionary step — by codifying it in its Constitution — of granting rights to Nature! Ecuador’s constitution grants nature the right to “integral restoration” and says that the state “will promote respect toward all the elements that form an ecosystem” and that the state “will apply precaution and restriction measures in all the activities that can lead to the extinction of species, the destruction of the ecosystems, or the permanent alteration of the natural cycles.”  more ]
Learn more about the Community Legal Defense Fund that is trying to bring this codification into 100 local communities in the US! [ more ]
Lots of people know what to do, but few people actually do what they know. Knowing is not enough! You must take action. Anthony Robbins
Thursdays live session.9 till 11 pm, GMT (Please feel free to join me on line today).
Friday:
If we had a pound for every person who said, ‘I would join you lads, if it weren’t for the mortgage and the kids,’ we would have enough money to buy new boots. –Will
Three young men having been walking across Britain without any money, camping out and relying on the kindness of strangers to survive. Calling themselves “singing adventurers”, they have taken three major trips in the past three years, sleeping wherever they can and foraging for food. They sing three-part folk songs, ancient and modern, wherever they are welcomed. They “busk in heaving towns, chant in crumbling chapels, and get feet tapping in many a-pub across the land.” [ more ] Submitted by: Kantesh G.
Watch the trio share their story on video! more ]
You have to put in many, many, many tiny efforts that nobody sees or appreciates before you achieve anything worthwhile. Brian Tracy
Fridays live session.10 till 12 am, GMT (Please feel free to join me on line today).
Saturday: 
 Food is the field in which we daily explore our ‘harming’ of the world. –Gary Snyder
What if you were told that one solution to crises such as global warming and the worldwide financial meltdown could be unearthed in the simple act of growing your own food? Nothing drastic; nothing revolutionary. Just a window box for a tomato plant in your kitchen.” It’s remarkable, but people who grow their own food, who reconnect with the soil, can immediately appreciate the implications of an economy that doesn’t respect the power of ecology,” says Woody Tasch, somewhat quixotically. But Tasch is no quack. He’s chairman of the Investors’ Circle, a national group focused on funding socially responsible companies. Since 1992, Investors’ Circle has placed $130 million into 200 such businesses and venture funds.  more ]
Experiment with the practice of pausing before meals to reflect on where your food comes from.
Nothing is so powerful as an insight into human nature … what compulsions drive a man, what instincts dominate his action. If you know these things about a person, you can touch him at the core of his being. William Bernbach
Saturday no session today
Sunday :
Only when we give joyfully, without hesitation or thought of gain, can we truly know what love means. –Leo Buscaglia
In 2000, after 31 years of robust health, James Chippendale, a wealthy Dallas business executive who had traveled much of the world, was found to be suffering from a lethal form of leukemia. Mr. Chippendale’s doctors told him that his only chance of survival was a bone marrow transplant, and that the likelihood of finding a matching donor seemed bleak. More than 5,000 miles and a world away, Klaus Kaiser, a simple man who repairs bicycles in the German village where he was born, had unsuccessfully tried to be a marrow donor for a friend with a blood disorder. Each year Mr. Kaiser received a form asking if he wanted to continue being listed on the donor registry. And each year he checked the box marked “yes.” On paper at least, or more accurately on sophisticated medical computer screens, Mr. Kaiser’s marrow seemed a perfect match for Mr. Chippendale… this New York Times article shares more of their moving story. more ] Submitted by: Avantika
Learn more about the Love Hope Strength Foundation Mr Chippendale founded. more ]
Any thought that is passed on to the subconscious often enough and convincingly enough is finally accepted. Robert Collier
Sunday no session today
Sponsor sought :
ANDYS… THE LISTENING SERVICE. Is a faith-based initiative although it is not owned or run by any particular religion, church, group or organisation? It was decided right from the beginning that counselling offered on the web site should be freely available to anyone & everyone, At source. Which would make it both affordable for all and be completely open and above board. We are basically a non-profit making company. That is why we do not ask for gifts or donations although these are always gratefully received.  There is always a need for funding.
 
Especially when we have so many other projects and initiatives that we want to put in place. Our future plans include: Making the website a stand alone Url not connected with word press as present, same goes with the message board. Which we would prefer to be advert free, We would like to fully promote the site, which costs money. We would also like to introduce a dedicated telephone help line and be able to train up volunteer counsellors to work on the web site.
 
Therefore we have decided to create a stream of revenue through business promotion and sponsorship based on one small advert, which will appear on every weekly journal, and newsletter delivered to members. We have a ever increasing number of visitors (hits on the web site) With the words Sponsored & supported by So and so Ideally this should be a company with vision as well as a social conscience. The sponsors would have no editorial rights. And the ownership of Andy’s will always remain independent. (See example below) If anybody is interested and want to have in informative chat please e-mail me on andypaulphillips@yahoo.co.uk.-Andy Phillips
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